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The 10 Types of Friends You Need to Reach Your Goals in Life

Hi Guys!

One of my most favorite things in the world is friends. My friends are so cool and fun and exciting and comforting and helpful and A-lottle-dottle-dottle-dig-dig-dig.

There are so many types friends you can have – and even if they are very different from each other, they are all just as important to you. Some friends are only in your life for a moment, but their impact lives on forever, so it is important to make sure your friends are good for you.

Every person can be a good friend to someone, but not every person will be a good match for you. The qualities that will make someone compatible for you are ineffable, and probably will change throughout your life.

So I won’t be able to get into all of that, but I can talk about the different roles your friends should fill in order to help you achieve your goals in life (and help get through life in general). Some of your friends will fill more than one role, for sure. Not all the roles will be filled by friends – some roles might be filled by a family member, teacher, or member of your place of worship.

Maybe in some cases, you will try to fill a role for yourself, but life is more fun with friends, isn’t it?

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The 10 Types of Friends You Need To Reach Your Goals In Life

1. The Best Friend

Your best friend is the person who goes through it all with you. Your partner in crime. Your equal. Your best friend will be there to help you believe your thoughts, feelings, and actions are valid and normal. They know you and understand you. They get what is going on in your life, because it is happening in their life, too. You are aligned and in step. They love you for all of your best times and all of your worst times, and you love them for theirs.

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I’m lucky because I have *three* best friends

2 The Inspiration

The Spirit Guide, or the living friend who helps you spiritually. This friend helps you to choose what to do by making sure you know why you are doing it. This friend wants nothing for you besides you to be calling the shots in your own life.

If you let people’s perception of you dictate your behavior, you will never grow as a person. But if you leave yourself open to experience, despite what others think, then you will learn and grow.

Mr. Feeny

3. The Mentor

The mentor has been there already – they’re on the other end of the life experiences you want to begin. They can give actionable advice about how to achieve what you need to because they’ve already been there. You can learn from their past mistakes, so you don’t do things you don’t want to do.

4. The Cheerleader

I’m gonna make you proud

The Cheerleader is your enthusiastic supporter. They champion your causes and raise morale. Cheerleaders are the motivators. They are not the best at giving advice on what you should be motivated about. They are most effective when you are already have a plan. You know what you need to do, and you know how to do it. When you are lacking discipline, they just help you execute your plans. They might not know how to score a touchdown, but they know *we need a touchdown.*

5. The Inquisitor

What kind of BEAR is Best?

The name sounds a bit harsh – and the friend might be a bit harsh, too! They are brutally honest, and very important. A few minutes with this friend can snap you out of a fantasy world and back to reality. This friend is not mean – they hold you in a very high regard and believe you deserve to be true to yourself.

6. The Student

Any Questions?

Having someone you can teach can help you learn things. Furthermore, it is often much easier to help someone else with their meal plans or finances or organization or clearing out their work e-mails because it is not as emotional. When you teach someone else something like that, you might find that it is not as stressful and anxiety-inducing as you thought. Then you can tackle the scary chores for yourself.

7. The Acquaintance


Work friend, neighbor, friend-of-a-friend, or even cousin. This is someone who regularly interacts with people other than the people you hang out with. You don’t know all the people they know, and that allows a broader amount of knowledge to come in.

Acquaintances have limited curated knowledge about your life. This of course means they can give you different points of view on matters, but their opinions are not near and dear to you either. At the same time, it would be fair game to discuss your acquaintances with your close friends because you only have filtered knowledge about them, too. You have the ability to have deep conversations with your close friends that aren’t quite hypothetical, but might as well be.

Unrelated to friends, but I couldn’t help myself

8. The Challenger

The challenger is not a rival, like it may seem. The challenger is someone who believes in different things than you do, but you still completely respect each other’s ideas. The challenger is similar to the acquaintance, but the challenger is close enough to you to tell you your last tweet was insensitive.

Of course Balki knows what that is.

It is easy to find a challenger in a friend who was raised differently from you. A different religion, a different part of the country, or a different country altogether. Especially if they are not your age. Different traditions reflect different core values, and once you understand where someone is coming from, less about different cultures seems odd or unapproachable. You may even find diverse ideologies of different cultures line up with what you believe.

9. The Friend Whose Life You Would Hate To Live

When Francine tries the Muffy lifestyle

Now that you’ve tried out different traditions that you have come to love, now it’s time to find your polar opposite. Do you love jet setting around the world? Find a homebody who wants to stay in their home state. Do you insist on living on a farm? Befriend a lifetime city dweller. Did you marry your high school sweetheart? Find someone who never wants to get married.

Not only will interacting with your polar opposite open your eyes to different possibilities, it may introduce you to things you never thought you could try, even if you never would. The most important thing from this friendship is finding real approval and appreciation of different lifestyles, which in turn will reinforce why you like what you like, which is great!

10. The Sense of Humor

This person is not just there to have fun – they perform the very important task of making sure you don’t take things too seriously. It’s just life – we don’t actually know what any of it means. There is no reason to get bogged down by stressful and sad things all the time, but that is easier said than done when we are constantly bombarded by the stressful and the sad.

Setting goals can cause rigidity or can give you tunnel vision. Even being spiritually at peace can get a little heavy, and the friend who can put it all in perspective will keep it light. This will keep you flexible about your goals, which is one of the secret keys to achieving them.

Who Are Your Friends?

Could you imagine which of your friends fit which roles? Is there a type of friend that you are missing? Maybe you need to meet some new people, or open up and be more vulnerable to some of the friends you already have.

The goals you have may be very personal, and you are the only person who can set them. Only you can achieve them, But having good friends will make it easier, and will make it all worth it.

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